사람 사는건 똑같다! _ 미국인들의 고민상담소 Dear Abby

해외에서 살아 본적이 없는 나에게 미드와 Dear Abby는 영어를 모국어로 하는 사람들의 대화 방식이나, 표현 방식, 표현을 사용하는 방식에 대한 많은 인사이트를 주었던 공부 소스였다. 물론 내용의 깊이도 깊지 않고 어휘 수준히 높지 않지만 통번역 공부를 하면서 1대1치환 욕구를 눌러주는데 많은 도움이 되었다. 

1. Parents Clash Over Who Should Discipline Their Children

DEAR ABBY: I am a single father of three wonderful kids. When my wife and I separated, we agreed to 50/50 custody and a property settlement. Everything went smoothly. A year later I requested, and was granted, full custody of my children. Their mom has visitation, but that's it.
- we agreed to 50/50 custody
양육권을 절반씩 가져가는데 동의했다

-  Everything went smoothly
모든일이 순조로웠다

- Their mom has visitation
아이들을 만날수 있었다 

Shortly after my separation, I met a woman and we became good friends. I waited about a year before introducing her to my children because I wanted to make sure I knew her first. Although we are not "officially" in a relationship, she has been more than willing to step in and help with the children. In a few instances she has disciplined them because of bad behaviors. It usually entails talking to them about what they did wrong and some sort of consequence -- loss of toys or privileges.

- be willing to step in 관여하고자 했다

- help with the childre 아이들 양육을 돕다

- In a few instances 몇몇 경우에

- discipline them because of bad behaviors 잘못된 행동으로 인해서 훈육을 하다

-  entails talking to them about
훈육에는 -가 수반되었다

When they went to visit their mother and she heard about it, she wasn't happy. She called me very upset saying my friend had no right to discipline our kids. I see nothing wrong with it, but I am second-guessing myself. Some advice, please? -- CONCERNED DAD IN CALIFORNIA
- I see nothing wrong with it
뭐가 잘 못됬었는지 몰랐다 
- I am second-guessing myself
시간이 지나고 보니 내가 잘못 했던것 같다 

DEAR CONCERNED DAD: If your lady friend's "discipline" ever went further than a talking-to, then their mother is right. Because you have primary custody of the children, YOU should be the parent who levies penalties if they misbehave and a punishment is warranted.
- levies penalties if they misbehave
잘못된 행동에 대해 처벌을 하다/벌을 주다 

- punishment is warranted 처벌이 타당하다

2. Friends Refuse to Accept Introverted Boyfriend

DEAR ABBY: I'm a very social person and part of a close-knit friend group, but my boyfriend is on the introverted side. Although he is sweet and thoughtful, he doesn't have many friends of his own, and he tends to enjoy independent hobbies.

- part of a close-knit friend group
가까운 친구들 

Since learning that my friendships are very important to me, he has made a huge effort with my friends and their boyfriends. In the past, he invited them to movies, reached out and attempted to engage them in multiple ways.
- invited them to movies 영화 보자고 초대하다

- reached out and attempted to engage them in multiple ways
여러 방법으로 어울릴려고 먼저 다가가고, 시도했다 

I have watched from a distance, hoping they could forge a connection, but they ignore or avoid him, and he recently shared his worry that they don't like him. I don't blame him for thinking that, and I'm starting to feel sad for him and frustrated with my friends. At what point do I talk to them about this? Should I just let the relationships happen organically (if they happen)? Should I interfere at all? -- TORN IN TEXAS

- watched from a distance 멀리서 지켜보니 

- forge a connection
관계를 형성하다/ 연결고리를 만들다

-   let the relationships happen organically 자연스럽게 서서히 관계가 형성 되도록 두다 

DEAR TORN: You didn't mention how old you are, or how long you and your boyfriend have been involved. I do not think it would be interfering to ask your friends why they seem unwilling to accept him. Their answers might be enlightening.

- Their answers might be enlightening. 대답이 놀라울 수도 있다( 몰랐던 사실을 알려주어서)  

At some ages, circles have formed and it's difficult to break in and gain acceptance. If there is something about your boyfriend that makes them uncomfortable, it would be better if you knew what it was. However, ultimately, he should socialize with you and these friends at his comfort level. You may also need to seek out new friends and cultivate relationships together as a couple.
- circles have formed 그룹이 형성 되다/ 자주 어울리는 그룹의 친구들이 형성 된다

- it's difficult to break in and gain acceptance 그룹을 깨기도, 들어가기도 어렵다

-  cultivate relationships 관계를 만들다 

- socialize with you and these friends at his comfort level
그 나름대로 편안한 수준으로 어울리다

 

Woman Is Hurt To Be Kept at Arm's Length by Sister
- Kept at Arm's Length 적당한 거리를 두다 

DEAR ABBY: I have spent years trying to have a close relationship with my older sister, but it is clearly not a priority for her. We are very different people, but I was hoping our shared history and family bond would be enough for her to prioritize me and my son. We come from a very small family on both sides and, one day, we will be some of the few remaining family members.

- We come from a very small family on both sides 양가 가족 규모가 크지 않았다

I haven't heard from her in months during the pandemic, which has been hurtful. I'm a working single mother, trying to take care of my son during this dark time, and she hasn't bothered to check on us even once.
- she hasn't bothered to check on us even once 안부 한번을 묻지 않았다 ( not bother to do)

She once told me that the only things she cares about are her own son and her dogs. I don't understand how she can have such a loving heart for animals but no concern for her own family. She can be very selfish and has had no close girlfriends during her adulthood.

- have such a loving heart for
`에 대해서 관대하다, 한없이 배푼다

- during her adulthood 성인이 되어서 

Growing up, she was jealous of me, but I thought things would be different after I struggled with a divorce and other life stressors. I received no support from her during my divorce. In fact, she seemed to take my ex's side despite his having emotionally abused me for years. Should I expect that we will ever have a closer relationship or just accept that it won't happen? -- HURT IN ALABAMA

- other life stressors
살아가면서 받은 다른 스트레스 요인들 

DEAR HURT: If your description of your sister is accurate, she has drawn a tight circle around herself that she doesn't want breached. You stated that the two of you are very different people, but on some level you haven't allowed yourself to accept what that means. You will be hurt less once you accept that your fantasy of closeness with her will never happen.

- drawn a tight circle around herself 굉장히 개인적인 사람이다/타인에게 곁을 주지 않는다

- accept that your fantasy of closeness with -와 가까워 질 것이라는 것이 망상이라는걸 받아들여

For whatever reasons, she isn't capable of giving you what you need. You will find the closeness you crave by developing stronger relationships with your friends. Sadly, for your sister, she won't give herself the gift of these important and rewarding kinds of experiences.
- For whatever reasons 어떤 이유에서건

- closeness you crave 네가 열망/원하는 가까움

 

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Parents Clash Over Who Should Discipline Their Children